Myself in Public

Men in Skirts & Women in Trousers

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I do not wear skirts and other society labelled clothing to support Feminism or to feminise men as many believe or state. I do so as freedom of choice and preference for me. I do so for the same freedom that women now have for appearance and clothing.


With gender issues I'm a genuine Egalitarian "believe in the principle that people are equal and deserve equal rights/opportunities"


I also firmly believe in Androgyny, the combination of male and female characteristics. 


I also firmly believe clothes have no gender in this era. Society certainly allows for women these days, I say not for men as well.


'what's good for the goose is good for the gander' 

Be yourself because an original is worth more than a copy.


"The greatness of a community is most accurately measured by the compassionate actions of its members"

Coretta Scott King 1927-2006 Author, Activist, Civil Rights Leader


I believe we are all human beings, all individuals and all are unique but I firmly believe that respect and understanding should be afforded to all even if you do not want or can be part of their lives. Sadly this is too much for society as the past repeatedly shows. This site has many sub sections touching on this particular subject.


This site is here not to ask your permission. Society is obsessed with its biased labels and opinions, at times selfishly.


To deny the female gender their individuality, empowerment, freedom of choice, expression etc in this modern era is mysoginist, sexist, discriminatory, even domestic violence if a partner expresses his preferred clothing preference for his partner. Not so for men though.

Benningbrough Hall May 2017

All reasons for or against men in skirts, in fact invading the female wardrobe apply equally to women now in trousers, and openly invading the male wardrobe via styles even actual mens clothing. The difference is society, with its labels, assigns all clothing these days for women and labels as such, but men still have to be confined to society expectations and stereotypes.


"In some ways going to the mountains is incomprehensible to many people and inexplicable by those who go. The reasons are difficult to unearth and only with those who are similarly drawn is there no need to try and explain."

Joe Tasker British Mountaineer 1948 - 1982


The above quote and next two apply to many aspects of society where others question another but expects of themselves, pontificates on how one should appear and behave yet not look at their own idiosyncrasies of life that others may see of them. For a man in a skirt it is just as applicable.

"Even with the most deeply-held differences, treating the other person with respect and as a fellow human being is always a good first step towards greater understanding"

HM Queen Elizabeth II - UK Queen 1953 -     b. 1926 (25th December 2018)


Sophie Perry, 13th March 2019, in response to heavy critisim by many in society on social media as to how they believe she should be mourning the recent death of her father, actor, Luke Perry:

"Yes I am hurt and sad and crying and beside myself with what happened to my dad ... But I'm not going to sit in my room and cry day in and day out until the internet has deemed it appropriate for me to do otherwise, ... And if you knew my dad you would know he wouldn't want me to. So you shouldn't either." 


These next two phrases regularly appear on social media, in varying words but still giving the same message:

"who in the hell are you to tell me what I can and can't wear"

"More importantly, what gives them the right to force me to stop wearing pants"

Always by women and always when some aspect of society questions there clothing choice or suggests it should be restricted. Mysogyny etc usually follows, yet with regards men, as so often within society on many aspects of life, men are questioned, challenged, expected to conform to expectations, stereotypes even as often happens, dismissed as not being relevant.

"Never let anyone tell you you cannot achieve because you can. And we are the living proof, we are Diversity"

Ashley Banjo, leader and Choreographer of dance troupe Diversity

Harrogate Convention Centre, 15th November 2019


I am a firm believer that individuality, freedom of choice and expression is an absolute must in this modern era for all. Labels, sterotyping of individuals should not apply. Provided no physical harm is done to others. However, in this modern era, this freedom and breaking of society shackles only applies to women, where men are still expected to conform, behave and appear as society has expected for men for the last 200 years.

"The challenge for us is to give each other space to grow and to change. To be different and to see things differently. But does that demand too much of us? Does it require a change of heart and perspective? Is that too much to ask? Christianity teaches it can never be too much, but all to often we fail in that challenge because we demand that others change first. We see the fault in the other but not ourselves. We don't always appreciate the difference in our role of democracy and culture or see it as building a society not diminishing it. History has seen to many attempts to eradicate those who dare to be different but its intolerance of people and ideas that threaten our democracy not difference. Difference brings it to life."

This quote is part of Thought for The Day, BBC Radio 4, 16th June 2017,  by Francis Campbell, Vice Chancellor of St Mary's University, London.



"Someone despises me. That’s their problem. Mine: not to do or say anything despicable. Someone hates me. Their problem. Mine: to be patient and cheerful with everyone, including them. Ready to show them their mistake. Not spitefully, or to show off my own self-control, but in an honest, upright way."

Marcus Aurelius AD121 - AD180 Roman Emporer AD161 - AD180 and Philosopher


I ask that you read this obituary that appeared in the Daily Telegraph on the 24th February 2011. Chris Dale, mountaineer who specialised in bold and new climbs with minimal protection who also loved exploring old mines and solo caved. He also liked wearing 'women's' clothing and purchased them at shops wearing such clothing. Read this article but look deeper into it as you do and just note what Chris Dale was like as a person. He did take the wearing of clothes society deem as womens wear only by adding wigs, make up etc, something I do not do, but it was obviously something he needed to do and why should society say otherwise. He was not doing others any physical harm.


Hovingham Hall 20 06 18We are all human beings, with the same feelings, emotions, preferences, and all capable of projecting likes and dislikes. We are all subject to human society brain washing, labelling, stereotyping and placing of expectations on others as individuals and as groups. Many are capable of expecting for themselves, denying others and labelling groups upon the actions of a few.


"Walk away from anything that gives you bad vibes. There is no need to explain anything or make sense of it. It is your life, do what makes you happy."

Via Steve Wright, BBC Radio 2 12th June 2019 - source #WednesdayWisdom from Lifehack


Society on the whole believes not wearing anything that it insists as being 'macho, powerful, dominant' style clothing, which it percieves are styled like or is menswear, is making that individual weak, effeminate etc. I say the person defines the person not what he or she wears.


Why under gender equality and gender neutral within clothing it needs to be styled and fashioned on traditional mens attire to be considered as being gender equal, gender neutral? Is this another example of female Matriphobia - the fear of becoming like one's mother?


Why not traditional womens style of clothing, or even better a mix and or combination of both traditional mens and womens? 


Women in this modern era, certainly since the 1980's now have a mix of both traditional male and female clothing and without question! All reasons for or against a man in a skirt or other clothing society still labels as for women only apply equally to women who now adopt male style clothing when not so long ago society banned and frowned upon such activity. To those who think men like me are queers, faggots, dysfunctional even LGBT then all women who now adopt clothing that is basically from the male wardrobe and what society confines me to must be the same. Metathesiophobia is the fear of change or changing and with regards mens choice of clothing society seems to have this unlike for women.


Diversity is the understanding that individuals are unique and recognise their individual differences. It is undertaken by many within their own individual lives and for varying reasons. Taken for granted by themselves for themselves, yet some question the diversity of others. This site concentrates on my clothing preference as a man, just like many other men around the world, mostly hiding behind closed doors. I do not hide though! SkirtedMan and Father Christmas


Diversity applies to all and there for all. Even Father Christmas embraces diversity!  



A few interesting quotes:


"We live in a world where most people still subscribe to the belief that shame is a good tool for keeping people in line. Not only is this wrong, but it’s dangerous"

Brene Brown 1965 -    She is a Research Professor at University of Houston 


"There's no sin like being a woman. When a man dresses as a woman, the audience laughs. When a woman dresses like a man, no body laughs. They just thought she looked wonderful."

Quentin Crisp 1908 - 1999


"Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom"

Aristotle, 384BC to 322BC - Greek Philosopher


"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment"

Ralph Waldo Emerson: 1803 - 1882


"I can't go against my nature because I am what I am. I don't try to be anyone different to who I am"

Brian McDermott Former professional footballer and Manager of Reading 1961 - 


As Archbishop Desmund Tutu said "I am because you are" applying the philosophy of Ubuntu.

"...taboos can change swiftly..." and " societies of everywhere, we mock the taboos of others yet fail to see the absurdity of our own..."

18th July, 2014  Anne Atkins Thought for the Day - BBC Radio 4.

" don't need human rights until you need them. Everybody loves their own human rights; it's just other people's that are problematic."

25th October 2014 Shami Chakrabarti part of an interview with The Independent Magazine.

"It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognise, accept and celebrate these differences."

Audre Lorde American writer, poet, feminist, womanist, librarian, civil rights activist 1934-1992

"In a world where you can be anything, be yourself."

Etta Turner 1986-2002 Died 25th November 2002 in a bus accident in Bolivia whilst on a one year student exchange with Rotary International. set up in her memory. Etta believed in the power of the individual to effect meaningful change.

“The most courageous act is to think for yourself. Aloud!”

Gabrielle Bonheur "Coco" Chanel 1883-1971 French Fashion Designer

“Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.” 

“Don’t ask why people keep hurting you. Ask yourself why are you allowing it to happen.” 

Robert Tew - Former Rugby League player, now Chief Executive of Australian Rugby League Newcastle Knights

"It's easy to follow the crowd rather than make your own decisions. Be open, be honest, and be an individual thinker. We have the blueprints of those before us to build our own futures"

Anthony Joshua MBE British Heavyweight Professional Boxer 1989 -

"Be careful when you follow the masses. Sometimes the M is silent"

"The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don't know anything about"

Wayne Dyer

"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind"

Bernard M Baruch: 1870 - 1965

 "It is better to be hated for what you are than be loved for what you are not"

Andre Gide: 1869 - 1951

"Evolution has yet to transend that simple barrier. We can care deeply, selflessly about those we know but that empathy rarely extends beyond our line of sight" 

From the film Interstella 2015

"The worst kind of loneliness in the world is the isolation that comes from being misunderstood. It can make people lose their grasp on reality." 

From the book Inferno by Dan Brown. The closing sentences of chapter 101.

"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself."

"Change your mind as often as possible. Just because you thought something yesterday doesn't mean you have to think it today. Don't ever become a prisoner of your own opinion."

Harvey Fierstein 1954 -    American Actor



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