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Self ID - Gender & Sexual Identities

This page puts down my thoughts on the subject Gender Identity & Sexual Identity including Self ID. Created 25th November 2019. It has been on my mind for a few months. It is a controversial subject to many on both sides of the fence but it finally came to being when on the 23rd November 2019 I came across this article Claimants Witness Statement by Maya Forstater who lost her job as researcher because she started tweeting and blogs about this subject saying biological men should not self identify as women to access womens activities and designated areas. I had recently been reading about men self identifying as women competing in female sports winning, getting trophies for sports person of the year which does not sit with me. Maya Witness Statment albeit very long covers this topic well, is very clear, well set out and very factual. It is not biased, but even handed and refers to women as well as men on this subject. Also in early November I came across this Good Morning Britain on ITV short clip on Gender Identity when articles and tweets about biological men now identifying as women can now enter womens sporting events, winning as well as obtaining sports person of the year awards as a woman. They were biologically still male with all the male attributes.


My View on Gender Identity & Sexual Identity.

I question these modern identities as stand alone descriptions. There are just too many, covering every slight variation. Even I on a few occassions have been asked "so, what do you identify as then?" My standard reply is "the man who prefers skirts just like women who prefer trousers and other male style clothing". It is just society being obsessed with labels, covered elsewhere on this site, and the more labels created the more is made that an individual is different and society cannot cope with being different to what it perceives as normal. Why not be content with ourselves being as individuals. Individuality I am proud of. So what if a man speaks and behaves in a feminine way, as too women who do so in a masculine way. So what if a man or a woman at one time prefers the same sex but at other times the opposite sex. So what if a mans appearance is feminine with regards wigs, make up, jewellery, likewise for women. So what if like me men prefer the female clothing wardrobe, after all women openly invade the male wardrobe and do so without questions, labels and identity at them. For me nature creates humans with two biological sexes. Either Male or Female. I do understand Transgender and Intersex. The human body is a complex entity, thousands upon thousands of cells, DNA etc anything can get cross wired in its making. I firmly believe this can make males and females too have preferences, emotions and other characteristics that society is so obsessed to attach labels too and specify a gender these labels belong to. I firmly believe one can be in the wrong body. We are all at conception female and only the activation of a particular cell at a certain stage of development, at random, does the cell either create testicles and large amounts of Testosteron, i.e. male or ovaries and Estogen, i.e. female. I can therefore understand to being attracted to your opposite sex, same sex or swap the sex attraction from time to time for the same complexity of the human creation. As a consequence I can accept there is a spectrum of gender and that is created solely by society with its obsession of labels of expectations assigned to the gender of the biological sex. On the whole the human body is in the majority standard but as I say the DNA, number of cells can get mixed hence the reason why some humans are born with organs of the opposite sex, have disfiguraments even faulty parts due to genetics discovered either early or much later in life. Why cannot the personality, feelings and emotions of the person which are unique to us all not get crossed and mixed up. As humans, society needs to live by labels, expectation etc. Any one deviating from slightly to massively does not conform to these specific human labels and boxes and therefore is different and society struggles with differences. Many cannot cope. As I say else where on this site they mock the afflections of others but fail to see the absurdity of their own. At the end of the day, regardless of gender spectrum/identity and sexual identity nature still only has two base sexes, male or female and society needs to accept this and live with this and just accept all are unique individuals as man or woman, some with specific characteristics that do not conform to society obsession of binary gender labels. Society is quite free to accept the female variations, but not so for men. It is very much like politics, all, I accept, in politics have the genuine desire to have the country at heart, in true democratic countries, yet we have many parties and even within these parties we have many ideas and versions that differ from slight to huge. Religion is the same, they all acknowledge the same God, just different routes, reasons etc. Company boardrooms, committees, the list goes on, it is human nature, our make up and one of humans biggest failings. I have read about the Gene called the Explorer Gene. DRD47R is the genetic code. DRD4 is standard in us all, it is the personality side of us but 7R is known to be in moutaineers, adventurers, risk takers. Only a few have 7R, the rest have a differing two character code which is what groups our personalites similar to others. I am sure this also affects the gender spectrum and sexual identitity as being human we all need to fit to a label, a box, a category. Human society only works by labels, boxes and catagories.

Wikipedia definition of Gender Identity:

Gender identity is the personal sense of one's own gender. Gender identity can correlate with assigned sex at birth or can differ from it. All societies have a set of gender categories that can serve as the basis of the formation of a person's social identity in relation to other members of society.

Apparently there are over 100 such identities.

Wikipedia definition of Sexual Identity:

Sexual identity is how one thinks of oneself in terms of to whom one is romantically or sexually attracted. Sexual identity may also refer to sexual orientation identity, which is when people identify or dis-identify with a sexual orientationor choose not to identify with a sexual orientation.

There are 8 types.

This Self Identifying Gender I am not with. Sorry but you cannot be a man, biologically with male strength, emotions, feelings and bits and say you are now a woman therefore you will enter female sports, female designated areas etc and society has to accept without question. Like wise similarily for women self identifying as a men.

Biologically we are either male or female, man or woman. Even Transgender are OK with this. Intersex mostly identify either male of female. A true Transgender is a person who strongly believes they are in the wrong body and have the necessary operations and drugs that physically transforms their biological status this includes their feelings, emotions and biological sentiment but they become then either male or female. Intersex have a mix of male or female organs, chromosomes etc in the same body and usually resolved with medical intervention. It is a naturally incurred condition. With regards Transgender I strongly believe that prior to the age of 18 I do not think Transgender operations should takeplace, but that is just my perception and do listen to others. By all means engage in discussion if the child talks about being in the wrong body and if it is clearly obvious the childs mind is adament then for me I see an exception to my ethos. For me, I think one needs to be sure before making a very fundalmental change. Until Secondary School age the human body is very much evolving, learning, growing and can be confused. An individual believed to be trapped in the wrong body should actively be the sex they believe to be in all aspects, utilising accessories such as false breasts, penis, wigs etc as a clear indication they are genuine as being in the wrong body. If the child is adament and has lived exactly as the opposite sex then engage in the biological change before puberty or 18. There is a distinct difference in children when they start at secondary and such conversations will at that stage of life be far more genuine. Such Transgender change is quite a dramatic move, one that should only be taken when their mind can fully compute and comprehend their feelings. Young human emotions and feelings change wildly with many in their child years. A young boy living as a girl for many years as to for girls as boys in home life will give a clear indication if their thoughts are genuine and not role play in which case Transgender via medical assistance should not be questioned. I have no doubts that I am not Transgender but my thoughts and determination as an adult to wear the choice of clothing I do is unquestionable but would I do this in the current era but at aged 8 or 10, even 15? I would have to have a long thought about it in our current era. (2019). I didn't when I was a child even though since the age of 7 the preference for skirts, more colourful and characterful clothing with personality compared to the set male clothing was my preference. I didn't because at that time, late 60's into 70's society certainly was not unstanding and also was it just a phase I was going through as my mind, emotions, feelings developed. It didn't but the rest is covered on my page "Me and Be Yourself Message". School days can be very cruel by others, adult life can be hard but as a person in adult life you are in a different frame of mind. It is the same for children who accept their biological sex but not society consructs. For me this should be embraced but noting the bullying effect at schools.

Should Gender & Sexual Identities even breaking of social constructs be taught at school. This is again a very controversial question. I think not as a specific subject over many hours but yes, discussed. Not to confuse children even perhaps inadvertently brainwash them but they all have access to TV's and the internet and the subject on there. The discussion should be along my paragraph above about the complexity of the human body and we are all different in varying degrees. Knowledge to encourage respect, tolerance, understanding not the negative overtones society is so keen on. Positive is far better than negative. Primary Schools are there in my view for the basic learning of reading and writing with the basics of other subjects. Secondary is when the human mind has really developed and subjects become more thorough. Children should never be made to feel that they are wrong in this subject. The vast majority of standard human beings, well into the top 90% are all of the standard human expectation. For true Transgender one must accept that persons decision based upon his or her feelings. Mental Health is at stake here and it did affect mine in my early to mid adult years. With regards Self ID just be you but sorry, you are still either your male or female biological sex.

I am all for society gender social constructs to be dropped, let children dress as they want, role play as they want, let boys and girls play with any toy and activity. Girls and boys should be encouraged to play together. It was when I was at primary and I recall boys and girls being on toy packging for many if not majority of toys. Girls and boys should know each can achieve whatever, provided they have the knowledge and ability. This should also be possible as adults and for me and all that I know in my life, it does not change you from your nature given biological sex of either man or woman. As I say on this site if clothing choice does change a persons sex for society then why is it only for men but never for women including appearance and behaviour?

I have been aware of the modern increasing labels of gender identity and I am happy to let others be. However this self identification when men who are biologically men are now entering womens sports, toilets, designated changing rooms be it swimming, gym even fitting rooms in shops is beyond common sense for me and I understand for many others. Many organisations are now offering such facilities and main political parties are promising in this next UK Parliament as stated in their campaigns of Nov/Dec 2019 election from 2020 to bring Self ID in. I think the conservatives are the only ones not to. For me, Self ID will only cause serious issues. Yes there are some genuine men and women around with Self ID but we all know human society is not and has never been a level playing field and many, and I have to say it will be men mostly, will take advantage of this due to their uncontrolled sexual feelings and emotions. Some of the gender identity labels, and I am not going to list them, but they are so varied to suit whatever a person desires is incredible and some implying you are not man or woman.

I strongly believe a modern society should have freedom, dress as you want, appear as you want, do what you want so long as no physical harm to others but you are still a man or woman despite what ever gender identity label you want to have or create. It is the same with your biological sex. I also believe in this freedom you should have a minimum of respect offered to you, not be subject to bullying, ridicule or question, you are you and have as much to be you as the next person or those that question you. At the end of the day though biology states you are still either a man or a woman, that is binary but your personality, preferences, are not binary. Society is very obsessed with binary, conforming, fitting in and forces the creation of these mulitple gender and sex identities and I don't think it is helping with the realisation that the core principle of humans for sex is male or female regardless of whatever label is created to suit an identity one wants to adopt. Society needs to remember that the majority of society work on male or female and Self ID causes concerns when mixed biological sexes are competing in sport, even areas designated as privacy for people. Society must also weigh up the mental health concerns of individuals who are truly concerned about identities. Negativity does not help, neither is allowing Self ID without thought of others either.

I object to the word cis now being assigned to men and women who accept their birth biological sex. This word has been created to accommodate those who are Transman or Transwoman so they can be called man or woman. We are all either man or woman as I state above. If they need to have this label differentiation then have a 'cis' word for them.

Many will see this page as Transphobic. You are always critisised for what ever you do, but these same people do not see what they accuse others of, they are doing the same themselves. That is why I believe in Egalitarian, everyone is a human being, all entitled to freedom, equality and opportunities but at the end of the day we are all human, one can produce sperm, the other can carry the child but we are all otherwise just a human being. Yes a true Transgender person cannot as to for some non Transgender people but they are still referred to as man or woman so why not for true Transgender.

For me I am happy as me, a biolgical male, whose interests and character spans both male and female society gender constructs and ignores others due to not being interested. I am a human being with the ususal human failings, likes, dislikes but an individual true to himself and not curtailed to society male constructs and expectations. The last 2 characters of my DRD4 obviously takes my personality spectrum to include society considered male and female characteristics, clothing society is obsessed as womens only but any wear for women.

Interesting articles

Harry Potter and the Transgender Revolution 26th December 2019

I Knew From the Age of 3 That I Had a Boys Brain but a Girls Body 15th December 2019

Trans Activistis are Making Life Harder for Trans People 14th December 2019

A new study sheds light on gender identity in children 22nd November 2019 

Poll Reveals Gulf in Attitudes Towards Gender Identity Across Great Britain 22nd November 2019

A Plea To Trans Activists: We Can Protect Trans Rights Without Denying Biology 30th March 2018



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